Know Your Limitations 

Last Saturday – while I was in the shower – hubby was outside, getting ready to bring our riding lawnmower for service. He tripped on the side of the concrete driveway, fell, and landed hard on his left knee and shoulder.  He was coming back inside as I was going outside to help him load the mower on to the trailer…

Needless to say, we didn’t go anywhere the rest of the day.  I cleaned up the abrasions but he refused an ice pack. At 6 pm, he tried to get out of the chair and couldn’t. I had to call EMS. We got to the ER about 6:30. And we were there for 3+ hours.

Poor Ducky was totally confused, and stressed. When the EMTs arrived the first time. I had to put her in the room downstairs to keep her from acting out against them. That just added to her confusion and stress. When Sam was settled into the ambulance, I brought Ducky back upstairs and put her in her crate in the bedroom. I gave them both kisses and a treat, and locked up the house.  And followed the ambulance to the hospital. I didn’t see the girls again until about quarter to ten. By the time I got home, the poor dogs needed to relieve themselves and were hungry. Sam was being brought home in an ambulance in another half hour or so. Then the confusion and stress rose again for Ducky when once more she had to wait downstairs while the EMTs got her dog-daddy settled in the bed.

Sunday was stressful, too. But fast forward to bedtime. Ducky snarked at Shadow for trying to get in the bedroom.  Something she hasn’t done in a long time. And Monday morning they had another “altercation” over a damn ball. Luckily, no blood was drawn; but Shadow cried out before I could get Ducky under control and downstairs to cool off. And give myself a chance to cool off. Ducky may not understand the concept of timeout; but she knows when Mommy is pissed off. I gave Shadow a Tramadol to relieve the pain where Ducky clamped down on her leg, and reassured her that she did nothing wrong. After about 20 or 30 minutes, I let Ducky come back upstairs. They “made up” but pretty much kept their distance from each other the rest of the day. 

That’s when I decided I had more than enough stress having to play nursemaid to an immobile spouse. I needed help with Ducky. So I called the owner of Ducky’s daycare and asked her to put together a quote for me to resume a 5-days-a-week schedule for Ducky until hubby regains the majority of his mobility. 

It’s not the ideal situation. I’d rather have Ducky home  – and she would prefer to be home – and learning to deal with her daddy’s situation with my help. But I know myself. I know that when I’m stressed and tired, my patience suffers.  And that’s not good for Ducky. Or for Shadow. Ducky needs an outlet for her turbocharged energy – and her stress – that I can’t provide all day long right now. Especially with Shadow on leash restriction. And Shadow needs focused love and attention. So, for now at least, Ducky will be spending at least half a day at daycare every weekday.  She was worn out yesterday afternoon when I picked her up; and there was peace between my girls all evening, even at bedtime.

So, my advice is this: when you’re in a stressful situation, acknowledge your limitations and gather the courage to ask for whatever help you need. You’ll be doing yourself and everyone you love and live with a big favor. Don’t try to do it all yourself.

12 thoughts on “Know Your Limitations ”

  1. Tails Around the Ranch says:

    Exercise is the best form of control. A tired pup is a well adjusted pup. Hope Ducky’s dad makes a full and quick recovery for your sake as well as hers. I’d also suggest some Bach’s Remedies and/or lavender essential oil to help with her stress. Good luck! ღ

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  3. easyweimaraner says:

    dogs feel stressful situations and they can act totally crazy :o( Easy tried to attackthe firefighters as they picked up mark after his salto mortale from the roof… Fortunately the ambulance woman was familiar with angry dogs and helped me to lock him in the living room… You made the right decision, we send hugs and potp to your husband and to you all, we hope Mr. Normal comes to you very soon ….

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    • My Golden Life says:

      Thanks Katty! Ducky loves the folks and other doggies at daycare, so she enjoys being there. And Shadow loves the solo time with us. It might hurt the wallet a little, but it’s worth it.

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    • My Golden Life says:

      Thanks, JoAnn! Poor Ducky just doesn’t understand why Daddy needs Mama’s help getting up from a sitting position, or why he leans on the black stick as he walks – very slowly – from one place to another. And Mama has no way of explaining it to her. And the confusion stresses her out. I have to remind Daddy to be patient with his little girl. And sometimes he has to remind me.

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  5. Jodi says:

    I’m glad you knew your limitations and had a quick solution for the situation. I’m sure she’s having a ball at daycare, and I know that makes it easier on you. Here’s hoping Sam recovers quickly.

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    • My Golden Life says:

      Thanks, Jodi! Those of us who were raised on the “if you want anything done right do it yourself” philosophy – like me – sometimes have a hard time admitting when we can’t do it all ourselves. But I’ve been teaching myself to accept my own limitations.

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