While I Was Gone…

Have you been wondering where we’ve been the last few months? Well, I promise we hadn’t forgotten about you all. It’s just that our living arrangements were a bit skewed.

I spent the last few months helping my brother take care of some household work that’s more easily handled by two (or more) persons. And making sure his dog, Boozy, got the love and attention he deserves throughout. And look at this face. Isn’t he precious?!

I admit that although I was happy to be able to help my brother, I left home with some anxiety about leaving Shadow and Ducky alone with their dog-daddy. Thankfully, Angel Callie, God, and the universe were watching over them all and things were pretty peaceful.

Some of the good news is that Ducky was – in hubby’s words – “really, really good” and got along fine with Shadow.

While I was gone, hubby decided to allow Ducky the freedom to roam the house with Shadow whenever he had to go out somewhere. I wasn’t very happy about it at first. I know how snarky Ducky can be toward Shadow at times. But there was never any sign of even the slightest “argument” between them, so I relaxed. Angel Callie was watching over her sisters for me.

Then there’s Ducky’s rather vociferous way of saying “I have to go out.” I was a bit concerned that the ever-impatient dog-daddy would make her forever afraid of him with his grumpy responses. Thankfully, hubby kept his cool more often than not.

Long-time readers of our blog know that Shadow has caused me some rather stressful hours, days, and even weeks with her eating habits over the last few years.

In February – before I left to go to my brother’s home – I was still splitting her breakfast into two meals. And getting stressed when she wouldn’t eat. And hubby continued the “schedule” for the first two weeks. And he started getting stressed-out about her not eating. And he’d call me and get me stressed-out.

Then I “decided” our stress was getting to Shadow and making it worse for her. So, I instructed him to just pick up and cover her bowl when she wouldn’t eat and stick it in the fridge. “Just give it to her for dinner.” Some mornings she ate all her food, some mornings only some of it, and some mornings she wouldn’t touch it. But by dinner time she was hungry enough to eat a full meal.

I came home for a week while my brother’s best buddy visited with him. Shadow’s follow-up blood work and abdominal ultrasound came due that week. More good news: her liver enzyme levels were back to normal and the nodule on her spleen was still unchanged (after a year’s time). The vet said to keep her on the Denamarin long-term “and keep up the good work” with her exercise.

So, while she still refuses to eat some mornings, my girl is doing really well for her age. And I no longer worry if she doesn’t eat breakfast, as long as she eats dinner and otherwise acts “normal” during the day.

As the weeks stretched into months, I grew more and more concerned about hubby’s stress levels. He’s not meant to be a “bachelor”. It was past time to come home. I’ve been here a week now. I miss my brother and Boozy – and they miss me – but I’m back where I belong. And it feels good.

14 thoughts on “While I Was Gone…

  1. Tails Around the Ranch says:

    Welcome back! Glad you were able to spend some quality time with the bro and his beyond adorable looking Boozy! Gah…that face…way too cute. I’m sure the girls are thrilled you’re home and that Shadow is doing well. Sounds like everything is well under control!

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  2. M. K. Clinton says:

    I’m glad everything was okay while you were gone. It is always stressful to leave someone else in charge of your babies. ☺

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    • My Golden Life says:

      Thankfully, hubby called me on my cellphone whenever he was confused about the instructions I had left for him. And I just had to let it go at times when he did things I wasn’t happy about.


    • My Golden Life says:

      Actually, all in all hubby did a great job taking care of the girls. He loves them just as much as I do, and it showed in the questions he asked me. I was worried at first, but I didn’t really need to be.


  3. Jan K says:

    I’m so glad that things ended up going mostly smoothly while you were gone! My hubby and I differ on the ways we want to do thing with the dogs sometimes too. I try to learn to “let go” and let him do things his way when I’m not here (within reason!), and not to worry too much (easier said than done). He’s not the worrier that I am, but I sometimes feel like worry makes us a bit more diligent; but maybe sometimes it really is nothing more than unnecessary worry.
    It has to be so great to finally be back home, but I know you must miss your other family too after spending so much time with them. β™₯

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    • My Golden Life says:

      Men just think differently than we do, sometimes with no consideration of possible consequences. Sam’s answer is always “why worry about something happening before it happens?” In the dogs’ case, my answer is “prevention is the best medicine.” Thankfully, Ducky didn’t get snarky with Shadow. She earned our trust. And Shadow isn’t quite as anxious around her any more. Worry gets us nowhere; but like you said, it makes us more diligent. But it can also make us a bit paranoid. We just have to find the right balance. And have faith that everything will be okay.

      It IS great to finally be home. More to come on that “later”.


  4. Pamela says:

    So glad to hear everything went well for all of you during your absence. It was probably good for you to see evidence that your girls would be okay with the dad, just in case you need to travel again.

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    • My Golden Life says:

      Exactly, Pamela; but I hope that I’ll be able to take Sam with me next time and leave the girls with a pet sitter. Or, take them as well if we drive.


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